5 wonderful ways to make your Life 10X happier & fulfilling

                                                  

That morning I woke up early. It was dark outside and the morning silence lay heavy.

Bleary eyed I peered closely at the bedside table. It was 4.30 am. The weather already wore the promise of yet another hot summer day of May.

And then, a fluttering noise startled me !! I propped up in the bed and strained to look towards the source.

There perching on the window sill and flipping around was my ‘angel’, the sweet little mischievous -Cuckoo.

For a moment, I sat spellbound. Its been almost a year since I last saw her in my courtyard frantically trying to troop in her two chicks, barely a month old. too agile to sit around, but too fragile to cope up the world of their own.

A flurry of thoughts woke me up nice and good. Outside the sky was beginning to pale as darkness slowly melted away.

Morning chores over, I sat in the veranda with a cup of tea in hand and wistfully gazed at the bird still perched atop the tree in the courtyard.

This time she was all alone!

Somehow she reminded me of my mom, hard gritty and courageous, always ready to face the world squarely. Vivid memories of life with her are as fresh as morning dew. She would often tell us that the world is full of advice as to how to get the most of this world. But remember all this will be worthless if you do not respect your curiosity and give a patient listening to your gut feeling. Nine out of ten times people will laugh at you more to make you cringe with helplessness feel small and help themselves feel great .

Simply put, these people cannot muster enough courage to get what they want out of life.

It’s only years later after she is gone, I realize what she had meant then . The moment you let others stop you from pursuing your dreams, is the moment to say goodbye to them.

Wish I had given an earful to what else she had to say at that time.

Much like the bird on the tree, she raised her siblings and bid everybody farewell when the time came.

Its only after so many years that I could share a few more facts of life with you I wish I had accepted sooner. Everything would have been so easy.

Accept yourself the way you are

Whenever we are in a dark space emotionally, it is but natural to pick up a fight with ourselves and damn us for not being in control of things. Everything seems to spiral out of control and the more we push ourselves to straighten things up the worse they become.

On the other hand, when we feel okay and alive and kicking, we are more inclined to accept ourselves and appreciate the wonderful little things that our body does for us.

So be proud of your achievements, no matter how tiny they are and work hard on bettering yourself. Being successful is not about getting it done all the time. Its about getting right things done. Its about doing less but better. 

Befriend yourself and learn to live life King size. Your perception of doing right things the right way will change all by itself.

Indulge in self care

Whether it is taking a long bath, scheduling morning leisure walks, following a regular sleep pattern or something as little as putting on a face mask, shaving or trimming your beard, or even watching your favorite movie, anything that you do to look good and feel good puts you on the right path. Remember, self care means differently for different people. 

The point is that once you take an active time out for yourself, your journey to a meaningful day begins right there from that very moment.

Find your boundaries

When we draw our boundaries, we actually define our needs and what others around us expect from us.

Take time off to do a bit of soul searching .Find your circle and don’t pour too much energy into others. Remember to remind yourself that you actually love yourself a bit more than the others.

Left with enough time and energy, you will be less resentful and angry with yourself for situations gone awry and happier with what is left with you.

Learn to share Your thoughts

For once drop your guards and stop bothering yourself with revved up emotions. Contemplating and doing nothing will weigh heavily on you. Rake up courage for once, voice your thoughts strongly, stop weathering and reveal yourself. Talking about what is bothering or upsetting you always vents your repressed emotions ,soothes your stretched nerves and leaves more space to do better things.

Be in touch

When replying to text messages, attending calls, meeting friends and family and buzzing through social media does not feel like a huge task, its time to ring the bells. This is one tell tale sign that your mental space has convalesced for good. So, if you do not cancel plans last minute and actually enjoy being in touch with friends, ,this definitely is a good sign! Stay connected and feel the awesome goodness be the steal deal of your day.

“Remember it is you who alone can decide who you are not once but every time with every action that you take, every principle you value and every rule you follow.” 

I may have dozed off for sure for I woke up with a start!!. Somebody had rung the doorbell. The empty cup lay beside the chair. The sun had climbed over the horizon and the day was warming up.

Instinctively, I looked out for the little bird. She was gone like a summer breeze, may be never to be seen again.

Days later as I pen these lines, I envy that little songbird. Her resolute flight from nowhere to my courtyard had caught me unguarded. It reminded me of purposefulness and determination that I had vowed to myself but over the time had pushed into a corner.

It reminded me of all that I learned from Maa while trudging along the way holding her hands swaying from side to side as I grew up.

Thank you from my soul maa for bearing me, rearing me and helping me to grow up to be the one I am now.!

It's only now I could gather that it all happened on Sunday the 10th of May##The Mothers Day.